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[watchthesky]

congrats catie

[Catieo4o5]

thanks franny! yes we should. i miss you too</3
thank you kayla

[Guro]

Congrats Catie! That's awesome

[Catieo4o5]

haha thank you

[MSkeleton]

Harry, He is the one who see the most times grey in situations.
I am the person who only things can be good or bad and nothing in between.
But we talked yesterday about, because I said something to him what bugs me and he was being an complete dushbag about.
And when he came later, he said he understood it. And he would try better.
But I said to him also first I wanna see, then I believe.
And if it doesn't change, I think i will/need to leave him because it will break me in two.
Even that I love him so much! But thankyou Harry


And people there is also something else i want to let lose, a kind of rant about myself?
And I don't know if people here have the same? But there are alot of things that i want.
But i never have to balls to do them, because im scared it would look stupid, people arround me doesnt like it and stuff.
I wish i had the balls to do these things:
To cut my hair.
To die my hair red.
To take the piercings I want/like.
To take a tattoo or two.
To make these decisions who could change my life in a good way!

[Catieo4o5]

yeah i know how you feel. i think everyone has a few things they wish they had the balls to do.




his parents want to meet me this weekend. ahh!! i hope they like me

[MSkeleton]

What is not to like about you Catie? (:
It will be okay!

I Really want my hair red like the color of hayleys hair in my ava.
But I don' dare it because im scared it will ruin my hair.
My mom certainly doesnt gonna like it. Because she dislikes red very much as a hair colour.
And im scared it doesn't suit me or something :/
Or people think im a fayley? :'D

[Catieo4o5]

aw thanks! still nervous though haha


yeah i know what you mean. it's always hard judging how you'll look with a color. but you could always dye it back.

[MSkeleton]

yeah well the nervous thing is normal! But he is with your side so it will be okay.
And just be yourself, and it will turn out okay. <3

[Catieo4o5]

aw yeah thank you. he says they'll like me so hopefully hes right!

[MSkeleton]

Im sure they will!

[Harry]

Not sure where this puts me (in the minority/majority), but I'm just generally not a big fan anymore of the distinctive external appearance thing anymore.
I think it's cool for stuff like dress up parties, or if you're in a band, and need to look the part on stage (like being in a metal band, wearing a lot of black maybe, or in a punk band, so with the skate shoes, jeans and stuff, or whatever), but the older I get, the more it just strikes me as silly to go about every day life looking like.......well, just weird.
Yeah, I used to always wear heavy metal band t shirts, always used to wear crazy, old worn out jeans, but I just got older, grew out of it, matured and now just dress really conservatively and much nicer than I used (except when I go skateboarding occasionally, I wear old crappy clothes because I don't want to ruin my good clothes).
I think it's just easier to dress and look 'normal'. I've found that way, people don't look at me weird, people in the street don't harass me and don't seem repulsed by me like they do to my friends who chose to look externally different because of the way they dress/makeup/piercings etc. As such, I don't have any piercings, have never changed my hair color and don't really wear clothes that make people instantly think I belong to a sub culture (like pop punk, metal, goth, indie etc).
Even though I really love rock music, and of course, metal, a lot of times if someone just saw me in the street, it wouldn't be obvious.
I think there's something really awesome about that, because instead of it being blatantly obvious, it kinda keeps you guessing about what the person could be like
I've always found it interesting, that usually, the most interesting and deep people I meet are those who don't dress and look distinctive at all.
If you want to really stand out from the pack, just read a lot, learn a lot, develop an understanding of the world around you.
Learn about stuff bigger and more important than yourself, like arts, science, history, whatever really.
In a way, I think it's kind of a cheap way to make yourself seem more interesting.

And really, if you are truly worried about what people will think if you do it, why put yourself through the stress of doing it and then having to worry? Your post has made it clear you care about what others think and how they'll perceive you and there is nothing wrong with that, it's human, and it's normal.
Some people say "I don't care what others think", but it's bullshit, because there isn't a person in the world who doesn't care what others think at least to some extent. In fact, the people that go ON AND ON about not caring about what others think, I've found are always the people that care what others think to an unhealthy and obsessive degree.
I care about what others think of me to some extent. Is it a bad thing? No. It's just being realistic and truthful to myself.

Sorry if that was a bit long winded, but food for thought, from the perspective of a male who's almost 22 years old and been through the whole teenage thing.

[waketheearth]

^

[MSkeleton]

haha i like your long posts! (:
yeah, well the most things I do, I do because I like it.
But yeah I always have in my mind, what do other people think about it?
But it's not if they dislike it, and i like it alot, I wont do it anymore.
But i've been bullied alot from when i was young till now.
And I don't want to get it so intense like it was.
But it also just something I really really want.
But im scared it's isnt my color.
And my mom told me today, if i would die my hair red, she doesnt want to walk with me
Because she hates red as a hair color!

[Catieo4o5]

you make alot of sense harry. agreed

[hubabalou]

My friend's goal for the rest of the school year is to find me a boyfriend.
*facepalm*

1) I don't want a boyfriend currently.
2) I have no time to be in a relationship.
3) My friend has no idea what I would even want in a boyfriend.

The next six months are gonna suck.

[waketheearth]

RUN AWAY AND DON'T EVER LOOK BACK,
DON'T EVER LOOK BACK

[iOta]

Not sure where this puts me (in the minority/majority), but I'm just generally not a big fan anymore of the distinctive external appearance thing anymore.
I think it's cool for stuff like dress up parties, or if you're in a band, and need to look the part on stage (like being in a metal band, wearing a lot of black maybe, or in a punk band, so with the skate shoes, jeans and stuff, or whatever), but the older I get, the more it just strikes me as silly to go about every day life looking like.......well, just weird.
Yeah, I used to always wear heavy metal band t shirts, always used to wear crazy, old worn out jeans, but I just got older, grew out of it, matured and now just dress really conservatively and much nicer than I used (except when I go skateboarding occasionally, I wear old crappy clothes because I don't want to ruin my good clothes).
I think it's just easier to dress and look 'normal'. I've found that way, people don't look at me weird, people in the street don't harass me and don't seem repulsed by me like they do to my friends who chose to look externally different because of the way they dress/makeup/piercings etc. As such, I don't have any piercings, have never changed my hair color and don't really wear clothes that make people instantly think I belong to a sub culture (like pop punk, metal, goth, indie etc).
Even though I really love rock music, and of course, metal, a lot of times if someone just saw me in the street, it wouldn't be obvious.
I think there's something really awesome about that, because instead of it being blatantly obvious, it kinda keeps you guessing about what the person could be like
I've always found it interesting, that usually, the most interesting and deep people I meet are those who don't dress and look distinctive at all.
If you want to really stand out from the pack, just read a lot, learn a lot, develop an understanding of the world around you.
Learn about stuff bigger and more important than yourself, like arts, science, history, whatever really.
In a way, I think it's kind of a cheap way to make yourself seem more interesting.

And really, if you are truly worried about what people will think if you do it, why put yourself through the stress of doing it and then having to worry? Your post has made it clear you care about what others think and how they'll perceive you and there is nothing wrong with that, it's human, and it's normal.
Some people say "I don't care what others think", but it's bullshit, because there isn't a person in the world who doesn't care what others think at least to some extent. In fact, the people that go ON AND ON about not caring about what others think, I've found are always the people that care what others think to an unhealthy and obsessive degree.
I care about what others think of me to some extent. Is it a bad thing? No. It's just being realistic and truthful to myself.

Sorry if that was a bit long winded, but food for thought, from the perspective of a male who's almost 22 years old and been through the whole teenage thing.

Oh my. Just like me.

But from a perspective of a female who's over 21 years old.

[Ross]

My friend's goal for the rest of the school year is to find me a boyfriend.
*facepalm*

1) I don't want a boyfriend currently.
2) I have no time to be in a relationship.
3) My friend has no idea what I would even want in a boyfriend.

The next six months are gonna suck.

I wouldn't worry. It never happens. You'll be like introduced to one guy, max.

[hubabalou]

I wouldn't worry. It never happens. You'll be like introduced to one guy, max.

Its gotten worse though! She's gotten three of my other friends in on it and they're on this master search to find me the perfect guy.
They honestly do not understand that I am perfectly content with my life right now. Sometimes I wonder why I have such idiots for friends.