some possible good news! i was talking to my "uncle" jack, here's the text he sent me:
"we lost today in the legislature, but we now have an even more solid case in the NJ supreme cout, who voted 7-0 in our favor over 3 years ago, but left it to the legislature to decide what to call it. when the legislature chose civil unions 3 years ago after the supreme court ruling, the fact that even the most horrible of the republicans testified today that civil unions don't work, makes our case for marriage a slam dunk back in court. we might very well have marriage equality by the end of the year!"
he is a strong supporter in this. him and his husband attend every rally and meeting that have been held since forever. jack only missed one b/c of a business trip out of state. so he knows even more stuff he can't tell people. but he said it looks really promising!