lawlz!sylvanna Posted July 11, 2008 Report Share Posted July 11, 2008 it's hard kinda. it's not that big of a town, and when you're friends' parents know your parents, things get around. so its like ehhhhhhhhhhhhhhh. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eefie Posted July 11, 2008 Author Report Share Posted July 11, 2008 did any of you come out to your familes yet?all my friends know I'm bi, and my dad and my stepmom know and they're okay with it, but I'm really scared to tell my mom. she says she supports gays, lesbians, and bisexuals, but its frustrating when she says "oh that's gay", or when she doesn't support me with my creativity or how I like to be different, it makes me wonder if she'd support me if I came out to her now. I kinda made the decision to wait until I graduate from high school and then I'm gonna tell her the day I leave. but its like, a part of me wants to stop hiding it too. it's not as bad anymore when at least my dad knows, but its still like I'm holding my breath. oh well tbh, you sound lucky everyone makes remarks like "oh thats gay" tbh, i really think you should cause it sounds like shed be really supportive of it (: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lawlz!sylvanna Posted July 11, 2008 Report Share Posted July 11, 2008 well I know everyone says that these days, but one minute she says she's supportive, then she makes it seem she's not. there little things she doesn't support me with, so its like I don't know if she would or not in this case. she kinda shows she wouldn't with how she acts with me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arrrrr x matey Posted July 11, 2008 Report Share Posted July 11, 2008 yeah i know what you mean, i was first bi back in the verryy beginning of freshman year. i'm going to be a senior this year. and i've been trying to tell people. all my friends know, 2 cousins know, my sis knows, 2 of her friends know, my aunt and uncle know [[i slipped and told myaunt, who told my uncle.]] i told my dad 3 times and my mom once. after having 5 hours worth of conversation with my parents one day. they ignored it. point is, if your dad and stepmom are okay with it, you can try coming out to your mom too. its hard, as you know already, but just try to say the same thing you told your dad. maybe your mom has a hint of it already. either that or you could drop hints to her first, like asking her questions in car rides such as "what would you do if i were bi?" or things like that. but idk. i feel like a hypocrite telling ppl to come out, when i'm living like i've never even told them. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eefie Posted July 11, 2008 Author Report Share Posted July 11, 2008 well I know everyone says that these days, but one minute she says she's supportive, then she makes it seem she's not. there little things she doesn't support me with, so its like I don't know if she would or not in this case. she kinda shows she wouldn't with how she acts with me. aw really? well its up to you but im sure if shes 'sometimes' supportive shed be deffo supportive of you obv, if she knew you wer, she wouldnt show that un-supportive side, you get me? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lawlz!sylvanna Posted July 11, 2008 Report Share Posted July 11, 2008 yeah it's tough, but the thing is with my dad and stepmom, they found out from adding me on myspace, and seeing it. I didn't even know they added me, so it was like, I wasn't gonna lie when they asked me if I was. I told them, and it kinda felt awkward that weekend and the weekend after but now it's perfectly fine. so that's kinda where the fear sets in about telling her, because I kinda didn't tell my dad and my stepmom on my own, you know? its so frustrating and confusing anymore. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Defiance Posted July 11, 2008 Report Share Posted July 11, 2008 silly is sexy Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arrrrr x matey Posted July 11, 2008 Report Share Posted July 11, 2008 aww well, dont rush into it. when the time is right, and your sitting watching tv together, or in a nice car ride where your talking pretty well w/ each other, say something to her, telling her that you have to tell her something thats very important to you, and that you'd like her to be supportive. then tell her. its hard, but that'll be the easier way to do it, its easier then out of the blue sitting her down and telling her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lawlz!sylvanna Posted July 11, 2008 Report Share Posted July 11, 2008 aw really?well its up to you but im sure if shes 'sometimes' supportive shed be deffo supportive of you obv, if she knew you wer, she wouldnt show that un-supportive side, you get me? I get what you're saying, but it's like, I dunno. maybe I'm not making sense? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arrrrr x matey Posted July 11, 2008 Report Share Posted July 11, 2008 no, your making sense to me anyway. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catie Posted July 11, 2008 Report Share Posted July 11, 2008 katie are you ever gunna try again Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lawlz!sylvanna Posted July 11, 2008 Report Share Posted July 11, 2008 awwwell, dont rush into it. when the time is right, and your sitting watching tv together, or in a nice car ride where your talking pretty well w/ each other, say something to her, telling her that you have to tell her something thats very important to you, and that you'd like her to be supportive. then tell her. its hard, but that'll be the easier way to do it, its easier then out of the blue sitting her down and telling her. yeah, that seems good. thnks :] I was thinking maybe this upcoming week, when we go away to disney, and her fossil of an annoying boyfriend won't be around[i swear he's attached at the hip with her.], then maybe we'll be good again. we just get in so many fights. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arrrrr x matey Posted July 11, 2008 Report Share Posted July 11, 2008 katie are you ever gunna try again yeah, i'm gonna try again. i'm going camping from the 18th to the 28th. and we'll be in a trailer thats 31x8 feet. so since we'll already be together, i can tell them then. like, when we're watching a movie or tv or something at night. but i'm also having doubts about it. b/c if it doesnt go well, the rest of the vacation will be really awkard... idk. who thinks i should tell them then?? yeah, that seems good. thnks :]I was thinking maybe this upcoming week, when we go away to disney, and her fossil of an annoying boyfriend won't be around[i swear he's attached at the hip with her.], then maybe we'll be good again. we just get in so many fights. aww. well that sounds like it could work, telling her then. just watch out for what i'm worried about for myself, making the trip awkward. good luck!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catie Posted July 11, 2008 Report Share Posted July 11, 2008 yeah, i'm gonna try again. i'm going camping from the 18th to the 28th. and we'll be in a trailer thats 31x8 feet. so since we'll already be together, i can tell them then. like, when we're watching a movie or tv or something at night. but i'm also having doubts about it. b/c if it doesnt go well, the rest of the vacation will be really awkard... idk. who thinks i should tell them then?? ohh yea giood idea. ive always told you that you should tell them. well if you dont want to make the vacation awkward tell them like the last day or when youre on your way home or something like that. so that the whole vacation will be weird. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arrrrr x matey Posted July 11, 2008 Report Share Posted July 11, 2008 ohh yea giood idea. ive always told you that you should tell them.well if you dont want to make the vacation awkward tell them like the last day or when youre on your way home or something like that. so that the whole vacation will be weird. yeah, i can do it on the last day or something. or the car ride like you said. we got a suburban and i usually sit in the 3rd row on vacations. so i can tell them and then ignore them. idk. i thinking about all this. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lawlz!sylvanna Posted July 11, 2008 Report Share Posted July 11, 2008 aww. well that sounds like it could work, telling her then.just watch out for what i'm worried about for myself, making the trip awkward. good luck!! thanks ! :] I think maybe like on the plane ride back though, or something towards the end? so the trip isn't awkward. maybe you should wait until the last day or something, that way if it is awkward, it won't be that bad and affect the trip. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catie Posted July 11, 2008 Report Share Posted July 11, 2008 yeah, i can do it on the last day or something.or the car ride like you said. we got a suburban and i usually sit in the 3rd row on vacations. so i can tell them and then ignore them. idk. i thinking about all this. yeaa true i think you should just go for it lol i always tell yout hat cuz thats how i feel but i cant say from personal experience cuz im straight and idk how it feels and everything. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arrrrr x matey Posted July 11, 2008 Report Share Posted July 11, 2008 thanks ! :]I think maybe like on the plane ride back though, or something towards the end? so the trip isn't awkward. maybe you should wait until the last day or something, that way if it is awkward, it won't be that bad and affect the trip. i'd probably do it on the 2nd to last day, the last day is basically packing up everything and emptying holding tanks and all that jazz, meaning its stressful, and my parnets usually end up really piissed off for some reason. yeaa true i think you should just go for it lol i always tell yout hat cuz thats how i feel but i cant say from personal experience cuz im straight and idk how it feels and everything. yeah i know. =D your just looking out for me. i've told you this plenty of times, i'm happy with who i am, i've accepted myself, but sometimes i reallyy wish i was straight. live would be sooo much easier. and i'll be back soon. i'm gonna make an omelette Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lawlz!sylvanna Posted July 11, 2008 Report Share Posted July 11, 2008 i'd probably do it on the 2nd to last day,the last day is basically packing up everything and emptying holding tanks and all that jazz, meaning its stressful, and my parnets usually end up really piissed off for some reason. yeah, that seems pretty good. and my mom always seems pissy whenever we leave vacation, like as if to say "OMGZ, BACK TO THE REAL WORLD NOW! I'M BACK TO MY BITCHINESS!" okay that was over exaggerated, but you get it, right? lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catie Posted July 11, 2008 Report Share Posted July 11, 2008 yeah i know. =Dyour just looking out for me. i've told you this plenty of times, i'm happy with who i am, i've accepted myself, but sometimes i reallyy wish i was straight. live would be sooo much easier. and i'll be back soon. i'm gonna make an omelette yea i am hehe yea i agree even i agree with that it just seems like its hard for you. if your familey *cough*dad*cough* was a little more accepting and nicer then i think you'd be fine. but seriously they're your parents and family im sure they wouldnt hate you for it ya kno. yay omlette. btw everyone katie taught me how to make one! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arrrrr x matey Posted July 11, 2008 Report Share Posted July 11, 2008 yea i am hehe yea i agree even i agree with that it just seems like its hard for you. if your familey *cough*dad*cough* was a little more accepting and nicer then i think you'd be fine. but seriously they're your parents and family im sure they wouldnt you for it ya kno. yay omlette. btw everyone katie taught me how to make one! actually, this is surprising, but i think my dad is more accepting of it. i mean, he's obviously in denial. but for some reason its easier for me to tell him. i feel like i'm just dissapointing my mom when i go to tell her. they wont me for it, my dad already s me, lol, and 2 of my moms cousins are les. and my aunts brother is g.ay. and my parents dont any of them. i just feel like a dissapointment though, everyones been planning on me giving them grandkids and great grandkids, and yeah sure, theres allie, but they've been looking forward to mine too. and they wont get them from me. and about that omelette... i almost caught the stove on fire... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catie Posted July 11, 2008 Report Share Posted July 11, 2008 actually, this is surprising,but i think my dad is more accepting of it. i mean, he's obviously in denial. but for some reason its easier for me to tell him. i feel like i'm just dissapointing my mom when i go to tell her. they wont me for it, my dad already s me, lol, and 2 of my moms cousins are les. and my aunts brother is g.ay. and my parents dont any of them. i just feel like a dissapointment though, everyones been planning on me giving them grandkids and great grandkids, and yeah sure, theres allie, but they've been looking forward to mine too. and they wont get them from me. and about that omelette... i almost caught the stove on fire... aw yea i see where youre comin from. aww yea thats good then you have les and gay people in your family. you can adopt if you would want to. yea making stuff go on fire katie god you dumb girl lol jk Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arrrrr x matey Posted July 11, 2008 Report Share Posted July 11, 2008 aw yea i see where youre comin from. aww yea thats good then you have les and g.ay people in your family. you can adopt if you would want to. yea making stuff go on fire katie god you dumb grl lol jk yeah, i know i can adopt. but idk if i'd really wanna do that, for the sake of the kid, ya know? what'll it be like to grow up w/ les. parents? idk if it'll be fair for the kid haha, i didnt make it go on fire on purpose! ..the spatula was fun though Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lawlz!sylvanna Posted July 11, 2008 Report Share Posted July 11, 2008 yeah, i know i can adopt. but idk if i'd really wanna do that, for the sake of the kid, ya know? what'll it be like to grow up w/ les. parents? idk if it'll be fair for the kid haha, i didnt make it go on fire on purpose! ..the spatula was fun though idk maybe its just me, but in a way, it seems the world is more and more understanding and open minded each day. so maybe it's like by then, it wouldn't be as bad as it is now. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catie Posted July 11, 2008 Report Share Posted July 11, 2008 yeah, i know i can adopt. but idk if i'd really wanna do that, for the sake of the kid, ya know? what'll it be like to grow up w/ les. parents? idk if it'll be fair for the kid haha, i didnt make it go on fire on purpose! ..the spatula was fun though ohh yea i see. yea that might not be good but it might work out great you never know haha. yea okay pyro! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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