kasiek Posted April 6, 2011 Report Share Posted April 6, 2011 Hey everybodytoday, let's dive into the discussion of sexuality! yeah yeah, i wanna talk about the cosmo cover. it's a little more than a big deal to me. and you know what? i'm really excited about it. to the general public, cosmo magazine is either a) a woman's obsession or a woman's demise -- honestly, either of the two options equal out to be the same damn thing! the media clearly has our attention. it's easy to let all the images of all these godlike looking women whisper to us how we think we're supposed to look. it's like "here look at my BOOBS! don't you wish you had these?" "more guys will like you if you do it THIS WAY!" "get this figure" blah blah blah spend all your time, energy, and money on becoming the world's idea of ''sexy"... and you know what? it's never gonna change. as much as i tell myself i don't care and i wear whatever i want... there will always be those moments when i'm at the check out line at target and i see some gorgeous person on the cover of any ol rag... and i'm like "ugh, is that how it's gotta be!?" only to realize that... next month, that girl on the cover is gonna be me. WHAT A HYPOCRITE RIGHT?!?! noooo. here's the thing. my #1 goal when the band began was to make myself invisible. not only did i not want to be the focal point, i wanted to be UNSEEN! and honestly, it never made a difference. i've turned down a lot of magazine covers. i specifically remember turning down Blender mag when i turned 19. and you know what? no one ever knew. it never made people focus on me any less. and it never mattered. so this time i'm taking a different approach. all 3 of us in Paramore have our own roles. and finally i will accept mine. i'm going to be okay with being a "powerful female". and if that's what it is... i'm going to use that role to make a difference. here's the plan. here's my course of action. i WILL be myself. i WILL grow up. and i most definitely WILL find the time in my own life to be SEXY if i feel like it. who wrote the rules? who said that a girl that lives in this same tshirt and jeans nearly every day won't wanna wear pumps and a short skirt tomorrow? the heart that's underneath the clothes is still the same. because to me, it's not about using sex as a weapon. it's about how i feel. somedays i straight up feel like wearing sweats. other days, more confident days.. i'm like... DUDE WHO NEEDS CLOTHES!? ok well, i'm not that extreme but hopefully you see my point. if you are a girl, i think you'll understand all of these words just fine. you know those mornings you get out of the shower and you're drying your hair in your underwearsss and you realize you finally don't care that you have that scar on your leg? or that your skin is so pale that sometimes in bad light you can see your veins? ... or when your skin keeps breaking out and you're like "today, i simply do not give a f***!" those are the liberated moments that i try to hold on to. and i'm hoping by seeing my crazy mug on a magazine cover... some girl who's having a not particularly liberated day will think to herself that the MAY cover looks just a little different than the usual cosmo cover and hopefully they can even be inspired. no, i don't think i'm some kind of saving grace that's going to change the magazine world and the lies that we believe in the headlines every day. but i do know that i NEVER ever thought of myself as conventionally beautiful nor sexy. and only just recently did i ever even begin to accept how my looks differ from other people's whom i admire. i'm hoping that the more a magazine will take a chance on a girl like me, the more a girl will have a frickin chance in hell to be UNIQUE, powerful, strong in her weaknesses, confident in her flaws. because that's who i'm trying to become. sexy is whatever you want it to be. don't let cosmo tell you. don't let vogue tell you. even your boyfriend or your best friends. the point is, it's up to you. i'm gonna make up my own version as i go. and for the record, i really was hoping one of the headlines would be "69 ways to 69" but i guess it was a no go. honestly, i don't think they could come up with that many. thank you guys once again for being a part of our family. love every one of ya. hayley -- once again, i didn't proofread ;//// Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Caitlyn Posted April 6, 2011 Report Share Posted April 6, 2011 I'm really glad she did this. In fact, I applaud her. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catie Posted April 6, 2011 Report Share Posted April 6, 2011 Good for her. I love this! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rachley Posted April 6, 2011 Report Share Posted April 6, 2011 I'm so happy that she did this. In fact, as pathetic as it sounds, it made me feel better about myself. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MSkeleton Posted April 6, 2011 Report Share Posted April 6, 2011 Amazing <3 and she's right! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Erin Posted April 6, 2011 Report Share Posted April 6, 2011 I definitely like this, it's the first time in forever she's stood up and just said yeah, I'm changing and fuck you if you don't like it. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
craven moorehead Posted April 6, 2011 Report Share Posted April 6, 2011 I don't know why some people had a problem with this shoot in the first place. Seriously I don't, I heard some people say others had been criticizing her for it, but I never herd why. What were they criticizing her for? I don't see anything wrong with it. I'm assuming it's just people that already don't like Hayley trying to find any reason to criticize her. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kasiek Posted April 7, 2011 Author Report Share Posted April 7, 2011 I definitely like this, it's the first time in forever she's stood up and just said yeah, I'm changing and fuck you if you don't like it. amen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shaniali Posted April 7, 2011 Report Share Posted April 7, 2011 So proud to see her standing up for herself after everything she's been through when she was younger, she truly is an inspiration, I hope I'll get there someday Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chriss Posted April 7, 2011 Report Share Posted April 7, 2011 I don't know why some people had a problem with this shoot in the first place. Seriously I don't, I heard some people say others had been criticizing her for it, but I never herd why. What were they criticizing her for? I don't see anything wrong with it. I'm assuming it's just people that already don't like Hayley trying to find any reason to criticize her. It was just the idiots over at AbsolutePunk.net, who complain about everything to begin with. Hayley decided to dress like a girl and be pretty, and they decided that they were gonna start calling her a slut for it. I think they were also complaining that she's on the cover of such a mainstream magazine cover and is no longer indie or underground enough for their liking. Sad that she feels she needs to explain why she's growing up and likes to look beautiful sometimes, but she did a great job doing it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rachley Posted April 7, 2011 Report Share Posted April 7, 2011 I honestly hate the fact that they did that :\ I mean, what's wrong with Hayley wanting to dress like a girl? I did it last summer. There's nothing wrong with wanting to be or look more feminine. I don't think what she wore was slutty... cause I've seen worse. I mean, look at Lady Gaga, or Katy Perry that have worn worse. I'd go out in that dress Hayley wore, it's gorgeous. I'd wear everything she wore in that shoot. Regardless, she looks beautiful, there's no doubt about that. Whoever can't see that, has shit in their eyes. Tbh, if she's got it.. flaunt it. Go Hayley! /rantover. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Erin Posted April 7, 2011 Report Share Posted April 7, 2011 You can never please everyone. People get mad that she doesn't dress up and then people are mad when she actually does something "sexy." Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HayleyRoxMySox Posted April 8, 2011 Report Share Posted April 8, 2011 I'm sure I'll take a crapload of heat for this, but whatever... I could give a damn if she was wearing a burlap sack, she's sexy no matter what. I'm way the hell past the point in my life where the only way a woman looks hot is if she's naked. That crappy ass way of thinking is for teenage boys. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chriss Posted April 8, 2011 Report Share Posted April 8, 2011 ^ You are absolutely right, and I doubt you're gonna take any heat from that here. Maybe over at AP.net, but certainly not here. And it's not even like she is almost naked. She's being a girl and wearing a dress, and a t-shirt (where you can see a bra strap and her shoulder *gasp!*), and a tube-top thing (sorry, I'm not up on my fashion terms, haha). It's not like she's parading around the photoshoot in a thong. lol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
craven moorehead Posted April 8, 2011 Report Share Posted April 8, 2011 Yeah, what she was wearing wasn't that revealing, and not any more revealing than some stuff she has worn before. We've all seen her at shows/awards ceremonies etc wearing dresses or tops that show a little cleavage or have strategically placed see through bits, so I don't see why people would make a big deal out of it now when they didn't care before. Maybe it's like Chriss said, that being on the cover of a magazine like that is to "mainstream" for them. I never will understand those types of people myself, that refuse to like anything that's to "mainstream". If I like a band's music or like a person, I wan't them to do well. If they achieve mainstream success, great. The more success talented bands/singers/actors/etc. have the better. I'd rather see Hayley looking back at me from the magazine rack than beautiful, but otherwise talentless women like Megan Fox or Kim Kardashian. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catie Posted April 8, 2011 Report Share Posted April 8, 2011 I see so many girls wear things like that, even I do. It's not a big deal. I don't see why everyone is so quick to judge and get their panties all up in a bunch. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sandra Posted April 8, 2011 Report Share Posted April 8, 2011 Good for her! I agree with everything she said. What's the big deal if she wants to dress up sometimes? I love that about her. And it's not like she's ever said that she'll never ever wear a dress. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shaniali Posted April 9, 2011 Report Share Posted April 9, 2011 She already wore dresses and skirts sometimes on Summer tours and she's always been into clothes and fashion so I don't understand why it is a " shock" Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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