FueledByPara Posted October 23, 2008 Report Share Posted October 23, 2008 Ok so maybe this isn't going to be that quick but at least i got your attention. Here's the thing, I'm single and have been for far too long now but its not like i haven't been trying there's plenty of lovely girl's around but the problem I and LOADS of other guys have is the approach; How should we approach you? That might sound simple and kinda weird but trust me sometimes just getting up enough courage to talk to a nice girl is hard enough, without you brain in overdrive thinking of what to say. Don't get me wrong I'm not looking for pickup lines, i just want some advice off of the people who really know. Hope you can help, thanks for reading and sorry if i bored you Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jorgi Posted October 23, 2008 Report Share Posted October 23, 2008 Find something in common, walk up to them, smile and say "hi". For example, if you have the same chemistry class as this girl that you like, then approach her and be all like "hi *big smile (or even nervous ones girls can find quite endearing)* um, i don't quite get this homework that blahblah set, could you help me out ?" and voila, you've made first contact. You don't honestly need an "approach plan", just say hi and be yourself (if you're a dickhead this won't go down well, so be nice!). Once first contact has been established it gets easier to get to know people. Just be confident and gogogo. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Defiance Posted October 23, 2008 Report Share Posted October 23, 2008 Find something in common, walk up to them, smile and say "hi". For example, if you have the same chemistry class as this girl that you like, then approach her and be all like "hi *big smile (or even nervous ones girls can find quite endearing)* um, i don't quite get this homework that blahblah set, could you help me out ?" and voila, you've made first contact. You don't honestly need an "approach plan", just say hi and be yourself (if you're a dickhead this won't go down well, so be nice!). Once first contact has been established it gets easier to get to know people. Just be confident and gogogo. DAMMIT! err yeh something in common does work i met my current girl by falling off a ramp onto her head..... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FueledByPara Posted October 23, 2008 Author Report Share Posted October 23, 2008 Hey, thanks for the advice I get what you mean with the smiling and just being confident, sometimes its easier said then done, but thats more me than anyone else (fear of being shot down). Defiance i'm not sure falling into a girls head is how i'll go for it but good story. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Defiance Posted October 23, 2008 Report Share Posted October 23, 2008 Hey, thanks for the advice I get what you mean with the smiling and just being confident, sometimes its easier said then done, but thats more me than anyone else (fear of being shot down). Defiance i'm not sure falling into a girls head is how i'll go for it but good story. seriously try it, you would be surprised at how almost killing her works Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
iOta Posted October 23, 2008 Report Share Posted October 23, 2008 No pick-up lines... Like "can you tell me your name so I can ask you for Christmas?" or "My love for you is like diarrhea. I just can't hold it in"... Those make you look like an idiot. Be normal when talking about... Normal stuff. My boyfriend came to talk to me in a bar when she noticed that my twin left me sit alone in the table while she went to dance with my bf's roommate. bf: "Are you the bag-person of tonight?" (bag-person=the one who watches after other's bags) Me: "Yeah, you?" Bf: "Kinda, without any bags." Then we talked about our opinions of things, he showed me his interest by buying me a drink and asking my phonenumber. We had a date next day and now we've been together for like 2,5 months. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
waketheearth Posted October 23, 2008 Report Share Posted October 23, 2008 okay, im not sure about other girls, but this definitely freaks me out when a guy that you have never talked to pulls you aside and says he likes you. so if you do have feelings for a girl, make sure you get to know her a little bit more before you confess anything. in my opinion, its kind of creepy when guys profess their feelings to a girl whom theyve never talked to. and it definitely confuses the girl (once again, in my case it does). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wildman Posted October 23, 2008 Report Share Posted October 23, 2008 Just always be nice to them, they will somehow respond, I do and it works fine... I'm trying to get to know this girl in my Geometry class, and my plan doesn't really work on her that well... But I really like her, she amazing, I need to find someway better than my own, and hopefully a strategy will work better that mine. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Defiance Posted October 23, 2008 Report Share Posted October 23, 2008 okay, im not sure about other girls, but this definitely freaks me outwhen a guy that you have never talked to pulls you aside and says he likes you. so if you do have feelings for a girl, make sure you get to know her a little bit more before you confess anything. in my opinion, its kind of creepy when guys profess their feelings to a girl whom theyve never talked to. and it definitely confuses the girl (once again, in my case it does). *pulls kailey out of the room* ...."i like you" Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
waketheearth Posted October 23, 2008 Report Share Posted October 23, 2008 Hahahaha. No seriously that actually happened to me the other day! I was like "uuuhhhh...i'll think about it?" scared the hell out of me really. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Defiance Posted October 23, 2008 Report Share Posted October 23, 2008 Hahahaha. No seriously that actually happened to me the other day! I was like "uuuhhhh...i'll think about it?" scared the hell out of me really. you know what i think you should say Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FueledByPara Posted October 23, 2008 Author Report Share Posted October 23, 2008 Thanks for all the help. About pick-up lines; it makes me cringe when other boys use these, they're awful, i don't understand the girls that go for that. And those who instantly go up to girls and say i like you, when they know nothing about them i agree that pretty weird too. You need to start up a conversation and get to know them before you can like them, otherwise your opinion is based complete on looks, and thats not what i want, all i want to do get to know them. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RenegadeRoss Posted October 23, 2008 Report Share Posted October 23, 2008 Just becareful of that friendship zone, be nice, but at the same time, be distant. Dont get TOO close before your actually with a girl. Cause once your in that friendship zone, your pretty much done for. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Defiance Posted October 23, 2008 Report Share Posted October 23, 2008 dude dude dude, i did a good one once tho, go up to a chick at a bar and throw and ice cube on the floor and stamp on it then say "now ive broken the ice" or go up to a girl and say "can you buy me a drink? im out of money" Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
waketheearth Posted October 23, 2008 Report Share Posted October 23, 2008 Thanks for all the help. About pick-up lines; it makes me cringe when other boys use these, they're awful, i don't understand the girls that go for that. And those who instantly go up to girls and say i like you, when they know nothing about them i agree that pretty weird too. You need to start up a conversation and get to know them before you can like them, otherwise your opinion is based complete on looks, and thats all i want to do get to know them. Yeah it really is! Or they like stalk you and find information about you. Well not literally stalk but you know what I mean It is really creepy though. Just becareful of that friendship zone, be nice, but at the same time, be distant. Dont get TOO close before your actually with a girl. Cause once your in that friendship zone, your pretty much done for. yeah i agree with that too. BUT it is possible for girls to fall for friends (happens a lot actually) but DO NOT rely on that possibility. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RenegadeRoss Posted October 23, 2008 Report Share Posted October 23, 2008 dude dude dude, i did a good one once tho, go up to a chick at a bar and throw and ice cube on the floor and stamp on it then say "now ive broken the ice" Thats bloody brilliant! Fair play! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Defiance Posted October 23, 2008 Report Share Posted October 23, 2008 ^ yeh got a drink out of her for it then fucked off cause i was skint Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FueledByPara Posted October 23, 2008 Author Report Share Posted October 23, 2008 Ah the friend zone, I'm far too familiar with this for my liking if i'd have had as many girlfriends as i had girls who are friends i wouldn't have this problem. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RenegadeRoss Posted October 23, 2008 Report Share Posted October 23, 2008 i hear ya dude, I've learned my lesson well when it comes to that Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
itsDAMARYS. Posted October 23, 2008 Report Share Posted October 23, 2008 i agreee with everyone in here.. be very friendly and get to know her, but don't become her " best friend " or whatever, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
xmurderxlovex Posted October 23, 2008 Report Share Posted October 23, 2008 DO NOT BE SO PUSHYY. Take Kailey's example. You'll seem like a crazy man. A stalker, even. o.o; APPROACH AND BE A NORMAL PERSON. ;D ....I suck at advice. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BABsxo. Posted October 23, 2008 Report Share Posted October 23, 2008 just dont turn out to be a total nob like a lot of guys. simply being a nice person would be enough for me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Defiance Posted October 23, 2008 Report Share Posted October 23, 2008 just dont turn out to be a total nob like a lot of guys. simply being a nice person would be enough for me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
roxchick93 Posted October 24, 2008 Report Share Posted October 24, 2008 well this guy who liked me hardly talked to me in class so i had no idea. then he is in cross country and im in tennis so where we practice is right by eachother. then he come over and talk about sciece and liek the home work then we find other things. but i dont find it wierd wen guys talk to me unless there being dickheads. just be your self. dont over think Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Crush3x Posted October 24, 2008 Report Share Posted October 24, 2008 Yeah take it very slow. Girls never like to be rushed. My current boyfriend waited for me almost 2 years. (Yeah, long time!) and now we been together for almost 2 years. EDIT: Oh and if you wanna try to catch a girls attention, dont try TOO hard. You might just end up looking like a fool lol. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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